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In this African tribe, when someone does something harmful, they take the person to the center of the village where the whole tribe comes and surrounds them. For two days, they will say to the man all the good things that he has done.
The tribe believes that each human being comes into the world as good. Each one of us only desiring safety, love, peace and happiness. But sometimes, in the pursuit of these things, people make mistakes. The community sees those mistakes as a cry for help. They unite then to lift him, to reconnect him with his true nature, to remind him who he really is, until he fully remembers the truth of which he had been temporarily disconnected: “I am good.”Shikoba Nabajyotisaikia!
I remember reading the above years ago, even before I knew I was a Twin Flame, and just this morning I was consciously thinking about all the "advice" that many twins give.
Advice is often laced with traditional ego thinking of if they don't show up and love you in 3d and they treat you (from your perspective) like shit or not giving you what you "need" & "want" then back off, move on, don't "put up with it" and pull back.
Did your parents or loved ones in your life experience pull back their love when you needed it most?
Maybe that is more the core question to overcome than focusing on them and what they "did" to you.
"If they loved me...they would do this, and this, and this!" I don't get that -- it is not unconditional love and twin flames are on earth to express unconditional love in physical form as a human.
There is an old saying, "You catch more flies with honey than vinegar" meaning it is easier to get what you desire by sweetness than by making demands.
How about we love up ourselves, our twins, and the world no matter what things look like? LOVE heals!
Withdrawal, anger, guilt, fear, hostility, abandoning, non-forgiveness does not heal! It creates more of the same.
I am certainly not saying it is right to withstand abuse in 3d (I am a survivor and advocate) however, during your time of separation from someone you love, all you have to do is LOVE. Physical presence is not necessary.
You don't have to understand, you don't get to have your "needs" or "self made rules" met by them.
Love all as God loves you -- NO Expectations, conditions etc.
(and yeah, possibly I am totally wrong! I just know what feels right to my heart and it feels right to love...not reject, because I don't get what I want!)
Rev. Marie G Blackstock